My friend is dating a bad guy
Queer communities are often small and insular, and once you've found one, you tend to hold on to it for dear life.
It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.
Even if you meet someone to whom you think you have no previous connection, a 10-minute conversation almost always reveals that she went to high school with your college roommate, used to be on a volleyball team with that girl from your book club, and had a six-month stand with your favorite barista.
Queers don't tend to expect our dates to come into our lives completely free of prior complication.
Of course, they’re infatuated by you from the very beginning. As he woos and pursues you, he gives it his all to get your attention and make you fall for him.
But once he wins you over completely, that’s when he starts to analyze just how much he wants to be with you. And when he’s done with the deed, he twiddles his thumbs and wonders what he’s supposed to do next.
Please give me the magic-spell-words to make him see this and dump him.
Or else the fortitude to watch him marry this creep. I mean – He can’t hang, and he doesn’t treat my friend well.
But what if you were already best friends from the start?After a particularly bad breakup, I was re-evaluating my past choices in boyfriends and felt like I was missing something.In the midst of dramatically labeling the entire male race as untrustworthy and deceitful, my thoughts turned to who I could trust.There was, of course, that best guy friend who was rooting for me to overcome yet another heartache.Not surprisingly, I began to think, “Wait, should I revisit this, now that we are both single at the same time?
Should he stay in love with you, or should he just get back to hanging out with his friends and ignore you? And most importantly, are you worth loving forever considering the fact that being with you means he can’t sow his wild oats into any other woman for… [Read: How guys fall in love – The seven stages of love for men] Why do guys fall out of love?